Many a times you go through a depressive episode wherein you find yourself to be sad or upset about a situation for a prolonged period of time. It might affect your overall health, cause immense stress and altered behaviour patterns. So, what should you do in such situations? Should you talk to anyone about it?

The answer is, NO.

Yes, that’s right. Do not talk to just about anyone regarding your depressive episode. Do you really think that another human being, unqualified and going through the similar emotions or situations as you will be able to give you the perfect advice?

So what should you do?

1. Consult a therapist/expert for your condition.

This is of prime importance! Experts are paid to listen to you, no matter how much you rant and go round the bush. They will not only listen to you but also make you realize what’s the right path and how you could change your negative patterns. The process is slow and gradual which touches the root cause of the problem and awakens something inside of you. Once you reach that point, you will realize that you are the ideal solution to your own problems.

2. Speak to your friends.

Talk to your friends about everything in life EXCEPT about your depression. If you do talk about your depressive episode, chances are they might absorb some of your negativity too and it might turn toxic instead of understanding. Divert your conversations to things you both like and engage in fun, outdoor activities. Sometimes, in the midst of nature, you might actually find your peace and home; a good relief from the weight you carry inside of you.

3. Pen down what you really think the problem is.

Most of the time you tend to get over dramatic about situations but when you actually write it down, you tend to rationalize the situation and eventually realize that it was a huge waste of time when you actually have so much more to do. So how do you find out about the things you need to do?

4. Always make a plan for the day and stick to it.

Have a plan every single day about when to exercise, when to watch a movie, when to meet a friend, when to have a night out, which book to read and what dish to cook on a Thursday night while you crave for the weekend to commence.

5. Exercise!

I cannot stress this enough but the main reason why your mind is occupied with depressive thoughts is because, you let it. Come out of this with meditative exercises. Go for a run, take that dance workout class and eat healthy at all costs. Clear your mind because that’s precisely where the toxicity lies.

And lastly,

6. Keep this phase of yours private.

Refrain from telling anybody about this depressive episode except a therapist. Chances are they will absorb it for the moment but not respect it at some point. They might start sharing similar experiences which might not help you get out of the web that your mind has created or they might simply use it against you, poke fun or talk about it and make a mess of your privacy other than respecting it.

Keep this phase of yours private. If you really want to talk about it then talk about it as an accepted part of your story. Narrate your story with pride once you have overcome the hardships. In that, lies strength and power over your situation, adding a beautiful touch of inspiration for those facing the same issues.

That’s when you realize that it was a much-needed part of your story. There is something so charming about how beautifully you accept reality!

Even after you have overcome your small battles, don’t blurt out advice to those struggling because they are probably in the early stages that you were in right at the start. And please, steer clear from phrases like, “Been there, done that” or “We’ve all gone through it”. Always advise them to consult a therapist.

None of us are pros at dealing with life. Do what’s best for you, smartly.

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