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Beauty- a subjective perspective

“Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.” As accurate as it sounds, it is still very subjective in its own way. Beauty is something that is termed differently for different people and can generate different images of self and others too. In all honesty, your perspective towards it is key. It is the “perception of beauty” that lies in the eyes of the beholder. The way you look at things is what defines you and the way YOU define beauty!

A lot has evolved over the years in terms of self-image, body image, self-esteem, perspectives and duplications of what was meant to be. So is the case with beauty. Beauty is now determined by purchasing expensive products, alterations of self to align with certain sizes and a major chunk is to do with social media. How others interpret themselves is now becoming a definition for our own selves. The need for approval, validation and acceptance has been based on how many “likes” or “comments” you get on your social status or on your extravagant picture you chose from a billion of other selfies that you clicked; each of which is beautiful but got rejected keeping in mind a “certain mentality of perfection”.

The term “role model” came up for varied reasons mainly drawn to focus one’s attention on a goal and how the best in that field could inspire you in some way or the other. But today, the word has lost its meaning and celebrities are being idolized based on their beauty and not for their talent, spirit, courage or any intrinsic motive to make a difference to the world. It seems as though beauty has lost its meaning to glamour and appearance. Everyone is in a race to be better than the best; where creativity is lost and talent has no meaning. It’s almost like a world of online imprisonment that tortures you mentally and transforms you physically, to “fit in”.

In a world where technology has reached new heights, plastic surgeries have also transformed people into exactly the shape they want to look like. Debated arguments suggest that it’s “OK” to want to look better if a person has a defect and would like to change a particular feature that bothers them so much. After doing so, they do experience a new sense of self-esteem, confidence and satisfaction and they tend to be happy and view themselves differently than others. But the problem arises when it becomes an obsession- to look better than the previous surgery, to have a perfect face cut or to be curvier or bustier.

Beauty does come in all shapes and sizes. But what really matters is your acceptance of it, rather than people’s perspectives on how you should view your own self. Beauty has evolved over the years where earlier, importance was given to nature in its purest form. Its modification has led to a commercialized world wanting the original one back!

I guess that’s the irony of life; wanting better versions of yourself but getting so lost in it that you want the simplicity back.

Even the simplest of things now take you aback like a baby’s giggle in your arms, taking a morning walk to welcome the sunrise, giving food to the needy or the feeling of belongingness when your pet dog runs towards you after a tiring day at work. Beauty lies in simple things, in simple deeds that can be felt and sometimes, shared.

During your growing years, the mirror becomes your best friend and ‘the perfect’ face becomes your biggest obsession. Times when you sit and cry to yourself for having a set-back will only give you a crying face in return. But if you try smiling at the mirror, that’s exactly what you get back; a smiling image of YOU, of hope, of beauty. And suddenly things start to fall in place.

Time wasted in front of the mirror trying to better what’s perfect in its natural self is then used to better one’s deeds in going out into the world and making a change and in sharing the feeling of beauty that you tend to experience in the course of time.

 Everyone has a different story to tell and so does beauty!

Beauty lies in the innocence, the acceptance, and the realizations. Beauty lies in the feeling, in loving and being loved. Beauty lies in YOU!

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How to be successful in life? – Channelize your Empowerment, this Women’s Day!

It’s 2021 and women are far more empowered now as compared to a few decades ago. Women have not only made their place in society but have also managed to become successful and empowering leaders for generations to come. Although there’s still a lot more to achieve, we are marching towards a society of independent women who have learnt to free themselves from the web of norms and expectations that are usually not self-created.

This Women’s Day, let’s take advantage of the empowerment that we’re surrounded with. To recognize the importance of it, we need to understand that we’re just a few steps away from being successful in life and to achieve this, we need to channelize our empowerment.

Here are a few steps to be successful in life :

  1. Learn to wait for your big picture.

Very often you tend to get impatient to achieve your goals. In that, you might even give up several times if you don’t see any outcome. Always remember that not every little thing you do requires a successful outcome. Sometimes, you need to build a whole lot, consistently, in order to achieve a really successful output. Learn to appreciate the process of your journey!

2. Start creating better goals.

The goals we create might be based on certain thought processes. Don’t be rigid in going all out. Seek more, think more, find out more and discuss more. Open your mind to the possibility of new ideas and better implementations. Once you broaden your mindset, you create room for better goals that could bring you success and lasting consequences.

3. Build your expertise.

If you are good at something, don’t just stop there. Channelize it in some way or the other and be consistent about it. Build a whole strategy to enhance your expertise and follow it. Take extra classes, read more, study more, plan more and work on implementation along with your forte.

4. Build a healthy mindset

You should not only be mentally strong to be successful in life but also have a growth mindset. If you have such a mindset, you can change, grow, evolve and learn through your efforts. People who believe that they are capable of growth are actually the ones who make a difference. They believe in their efforts and learn new skills to improve themselves, instead of remaining stuck. They look at failures as a redirection or a good learning experience for something better to come their way. In this, lies strength and complete control over your life.

5. Give importance to your EI

Emotional Intelligence or EI is one factor that requires utmost attention. It refers to the ability to understand, utilize and reason with emotions. It is important to identify what you’re feeling and address them accordingly. When in doubt, always take a step back and review things with an impartial eye. Those who are emotionally intelligent are aware of their emotions and understand them better. They also tend to understand the emotions of those around them. Keeping this in mind, you can understand where you stand and where to direct your goals in order to be successful.

6. Stop entertaining roadblocks.

When you have a bad day, take some time off and don’t waste time in dwelling on it any further. These roadblocks are only in your head. It is normal for recurring thoughts or fears to exist but don’t let them rule your life and hamper your productivity.

7. Refrain from constantly seeking validation and appreciation.

When you do anything in life, always ask yourself if it makes you happy and proud. Stop trying to make others the judge of that. If you really can’t decide for yourself then how do you expect another human to do the same for you? Learn to appreciate the little accomplishments that you have made in life and don’t place your worth in someone else’s hands. If you do get appreciated, cherish it as an added bonus to your journey.

8. Be financially independent, come what may!

Always be aware and well-updated about your finances. In case you’re not sure about how to invest or where to invest, educate yourself on this topic instead of being dependent on anyone for it. It is important to be financially literate instead of placing your hard earned money in the hands of others.

9. Live your own journey, even if it means doing it alone!

Steer clear from competitiveness. Stop trying to compete with others who have entirely different backgrounds, journeys and life experiences. Respect them and respect yourself enough to not mark yourself on the same lines as another in order to be successful. Your competition should always be with your own self. “Have I performed better than the previous year?”, “I didn’t take that well the last time but now I’m learning”. If you have such thoughts, you will not only work on yourself but also better your chances of being successful in life.

10. Be comfortable with uncertainty and not fearful of what’s yet to come.

To be successful, you have to embrace whatever life throws at you! You cannot shy away and take the easy road. Standing strong in your position and beliefs is a powerful virtue. Life is never certain but being constantly fearful will not get you any success. You cannot always be cautious of what’s yet to come. You have to be able to adapt and step up your game each time there’s a change in the plot.

Always live your own journey instead of constantly worrying about another’s success. While doing so, you might often find yourself to be alone but you never know, that might just be your last step to achieving the success you’ve always wanted!

You’ve got to do what you’ve got to do!

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People don’t change. They just buy time.

As many chances as you tend to give a person, it is quite clear that you’re being hopeful of the inevitable. Change is constant and nothing can turn that around. But basic and primary habits or thought processes of an individual will always be a part of his/her personality. There’s nothing you can do to change that.

People don’t change. They might alter their patterns to suit you but complete change in a person is impossible and only fools oneself into believing that it’s the only way to survive.

In all honesty, how do you expect someone to completely turn around their life experiences that moulded them in a certain way to miraculously just change for your good? Would you really do the same?

A 360 degree turn for another is a trial that is sure to expire. It’s unhealthy and delays the lessons you need to learn or go through in life.

So the next time someone promises you that they’re going to change and become exactly what you want or you find yourself expecting a fish to climb a mountain, realize that either they are buying more time with no concrete assurance or you’re doing whatever you can to be utterly hopeful.

Change is inevitable, yes. But this change is a part of your evolution and growth. It shapes the person you’re ought to become in the long run. It is a healthy journey.

So it’s better to grow in life and not significantly change to suit another because firstly, it is impossible and even if it happens, don’t be fooled into the trial period that sooner or later reaches an outburst. And secondly, you’re selling away your precious time.

People don’t change. They just buy time. Let alignments do its wonders!

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The ‘more than the normal’ realization

Life is truly a book of wisdom that you take in one step at a time. It doesn’t come with instructions but surely gives you a chance to explore yourself and return back to its guidelines. By guidelines I mean what you should ideally go through but arrogantly refuse when you want to explore the variations in front of you. In this constant exposure to varying versions of yourself, you will always stumble upon this one rule; a realization of sorts.

I call it the ‘more than the normal’ realization.

We all have a basic sense of what is normal. Very often we alter our sense of normalcy to adjust to things or people around us. Surely a good deal to adapt to life as you grow in its depth. But keeping in mind the basic idea of normal, always notice actions, behaviours, patterns and gestures that are ‘more than the normal’.

Do you come across an incessantly crying baby in the hallway? Do you experience anxiety issues with an overly hyper person? Do you see excessive anger and rage blurting out of a normal request? Sometimes, you might even find yourself stuck in a maze of adjusting way too much to other situations or opinions. In all, you might experience the more than the normal realization. In that, whatever you face with someone that is more than the normal or more than the basic amount of worry, rage, sadness or joy, is rather a mere realization that it has nothing to do with you.

Once you attain this realization, the next would be taking a slight step back to understand how secure you are in your own shoes. Do you feel the need to react? Do you think that you are actually the cause of that behaviour? Can you help? Choose a sensible approach towards the situation but most importantly, be secure in your standing of not getting carried away.

Try the more than the normal realization concept. It will not only save a lot of your time and energy but will also pose as a healthy way to let things go easily.

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