You often stumble upon the phrase, ‘Forgive and Forget’. But in all honesty, should you? This phrase, commonly used, has utmost importance in a person’s life but is very often told to you by a third person rather than the offender.
Someone who is concerned about you would ask you to forgive another for your own mental peace and not literally go out there and declare it. Sometimes, you might receive an apology to sustain previous bonds. But is it really possible?
I believe that unless and until you don’t consider the concept of acceptance, you can never be at peace with anything. Acceptance of the situation, acceptance in the fact that what you thought should happen, didn’t. Acceptance in being present in the moment and not in what the outcome of the situation might be. Acceptance in the fact that there’s no other side or psychology behind what was placed before your eyes.
Once you accept the situation you’ve been put into and the people in it, there’s barely any room meant for hate, revenge or any kind of negative animosity. There is nothing more empowering in gaining power over your actions and moving ahead in life with or without the presence of toxicity. This ideally helps you to live your life other than trying to artificially forgive and delete your memory- something that you can never do.
When you forgive and forget, you place a lot on the back burner, struggling to move ahead. But when you accept, you can then take control over the situation and your actions instead of negatively contemplating if the offense was even forgivable in the first place.
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